Should I send money?

Dear Mrs. McVeigh,

My daughter has been invited to go on a trip with a friend’s family. How much money should we send with her? Do I give the mom money for her meals, or at least offer?


Dear L.E.,

There is nothing wrong with asking the parents outright how much money to send with your daughter. I went on a trip as a teenager with a friend of mine, and I was uncomfortable the first few meals because I felt like I needed to offer to pay each time. Finally, my friend’s father told me not to worry about it, and he would let me know if I needed to pay for anything. If your daughter knows the expectation from the start of the trip, she will be comfortable.