Ask Before You Post A Pic

Dear Mrs. McVeigh,

I have a friend is constantly taking pictures, and posting them to her social media accounts. The issue I have with it is that she posts group pictures where she looks good, but not everyone else does. She has posted so many pictures that I am in where I look terrible! I think there should be an etiquette rule that you need to only post pictures where everyone looks good. What do you think about this?


Dear NS,

People always judge if they like a picture based on how they look. I would either not let this friend take a picture of you, or insist on seeing it right away after she takes it. If you do not like it, then make her take it again, or ask her to delete it. No one wants bad looking pictures of themselves on the internet, so I see where you are coming from. The etiquette rule is you need to ask people if is okay if you post a picture with them in it. People have a lot of different reasons of why they may not want a picture of themselves on social media. For example, I have a friend who high up in her company, and said she was upset when she saw her friend posting pictures with her in it at a wild 40th birthday party. For your specific issue, next time you get in a picture with this friend, tell her you will only pose for the picture if you can see it before she posts it.